How To Persuade People To Agree With You And Do What You Want

The ability to persuade people is priceless as it could be used to achieve success in almost all areas of life. Skillful persuasion can gain you promotion, add to your client base, have you sell anything effortlessly, help you get and keep a partner, make people open up to you so you can see how to help them and help yourself in the process, have people do what you tell them to do and even be pleased they did it, etc.

Persuading people to do or see things your way is an art that could be mastered through series of real world practice. It requires skill, maturity, confidence, charisma, being patient with people, passion, care and respect for others. You cannot succeed in persuading people if you try to rush or orally force your views on them, that would be seen as verbal brutality.

One common misconception is viewing a person you want to persuade as an opponent. Persuasion is not a battle and never has been, instead it is helping others in order to help yourself. Once you begin to look at persuasion in this light, things will become easier for you. Always bear in mind that everyone you come across including a child is intelligent and has his/her own sets of ideas and views of ideals. You cannot introduce your ideas and hope for others to abandon theirs, instead construct your views around their ideals to have them do things your way.

It is possible that you know best, but NEVER make the mistake of telling someone that his/her idea is wrong even when you think it’s downright stupid. This will extinguish any chances you have. What you need to do is get the individual to talk you through the reasons behind his/her idea, listen carefully and never interrupt. When he/she is done, try summarizing the points and ask if you have understood the points. There are chances that this person may now start to see his/her own flaws and will need a better idea, in any case the person will want to know your view. Now you can suggest your super idea; present it in a way that will prove to the person that he/she has a lot to gain from doing things your way instead.

Offering a straight forward logic is always best in persuasion, but you will need to have critically examined all sides of the issue and prepare your answers for possible questions or objections that will arise. If you are asked a question answer the question without deviating, but if it is an objection, listen to the objector’s point, agree with the point (not completely) to acknowledge the fellow’s intelligence, and then suggest your better idea framed in a way to present more benefit to the objector.

You have to be honest at all cost if you want to succeed in the long run. You may lie your way to profit now, but it will hunt you big-time later on. Never be afraid to admit your mistakes. Admitting your weaknesses openly doesn’t make you appear incompetent, rather it shows you are too good to let the effects of a few mistakes worry you. Also being open about what you stand to gain from things going your way makes you appear more believable. Bear in mind that you are dealing with your fellow human-being who understands that humans are prone to mistakes, and are too selfish to pursue any course that wouldn’t profit them. People try to avoid things that are appear too good to be true.

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